Love
OK so my broadband connection is *still* acting up and now my monitor has got into the act. I’m finding it utterly frustrating to be online. Think someone’s trying to send me a message?!
I’ve been writing loads lately… well, when I can actually see something on the monitor! Kinda breaks up my train of thought when every few minutes the screen goes blank.
And I’ve been slowly getting more and more ill all day… so I think I’m going to go to bed soon. I’m reading A Natural History of Love at the moment. My mom sent it to me. Last night I read the following:
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If (a woman) becomes pregnant, she will be weaker and more vulnerable for nine months, less able to support herself and then will have to nurse the baby and look after it for years. The male’s investment is a bit of spunk on a romantic evening. The female’s investment is many years of self-sacrifice. It’s in her best interest to choose someone who will stay by her and help support her child….
If men and women are designed to fall in love, mate and bear young, then why are they always fighting? Because their biological agendas are different…They both desire the same goal- the perpetuation of their genes. She hopes to fall mutally in love with someone protective but nurturing, faithful and fit. She tests his sincerity, grills him about whether or not he really loves her, if he would go through fire and water for her. She uses words like “always” and “forever”. She’s jealous and possessive, but with a twist: it doesn’t matter if he screws around, provided he’s not in love with those other women. She knows he’s driven to sow his seed in other fields. What she cares about is his practical fidelity, his staying with her to make sure she and her offspring survive. So, angry and tearful, she forgives him once or twice, or pretends not to know, but puts her foot down if it’s cronic or seems serious…Biologically, it’s in the male’s best interest to love ‘em and leave ‘em…
These days, we expect men to be more sensitive, vulnerable, loving, sympathetic and supportive; to be less competative, territorial and violent; to be more monogamous and to share the child rearing fifty-fifty. Actually, what we’re asking if that ment be more like women and for some that’s a tall order. Their biology protests You’re joking, right? I’m not programmed for this.. And yet, without such mutual concern and equality modern life would be intolerable for both men and women…
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Hmmmm…
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NOTE: I have kept most of my earliest blog posts private. They are mainly crap. I have, however, tried to make live at least one from each month.
